Something that annoys you

[80sFREAK]

Yes, it is! ಠ_ಠ

Is it chinese code page or korean?

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Kannada_alphabet

Wuh! One of the protoalphabets, interesting.

[Drakon]

When my husband decided that he want's to go though all of my personal conversations with other people on facebook and use them as "evidence" he's taken the modem away and i'm only online now because i've gotta check stuff here and my emails for ebay stuff .
I am still really really annoyed!

uhm.  If it's not too personal, what happened?  To your credit you havn't hit on me so I'm on your side!

[security16]

He went through my inbox and went through all the things i had said to one of my close personal friends who had started having feelings for me. Everything got taken out of context and now my friend won't even talk to me 

[Drakon]

He went through my inbox and went through all the things i had said to one of my close personal friends who had started having feelings for me. Everything got taken out of context and now my friend won't even talk to me  

wait so your friend thinks that you leaked this information to him?  Is he really your friend if he's not respecting your relationship?  I've had feelings for a friend in the past who was in a relationship.  But I kept those feelings to myself because I was friends with both her and her boyfriend.  It wasn't until she told me she had feelings for me too that I showed her that I liked her.

[security16]

No my friend knows my husband logged into my facebook and my friend is all paranoid about my husband going through all my stuff again and my husband had gone through my phone too. My marriage has been pretty shitty over the last year and i've been considering ending it but then there are all the hassles for my son which i don't want and the friend lives in another country so there isn't much that can happen there.

[Drakon]

Well you shouldn't end your marriage because of someone else, you should end your marriage because you want to end it.  Having someone else to start something with shouldn't matter when it comes to ending a marriage.  It would suck for your son somewhat but maybe not really.  My parents ended their marriage when I was 19 and I'm so glad that they did.  My mom was really not in a healthy relationship with my dad they would always fight when they were together so they just avoided each other all the time.  Later when my mom re-married I FINALLY had an example of a much healthier relationship.  I even like my moms husband more than my dad.  A lot of people try to make something dysfunctional work for the sake of their kid(s) but really if it's not working it's not working.  Of course this isn't something you want to do on a whim you want to take your time with this sort of decision.

Probably what's best is to try directly talking to your husband about it.  If he's not going to start abusing you for mentioning the issues you have then atleast tell him how you feel as communication can be the most helpful tool for fixing things.  Your husband shouldn't be going through your personal stuff he should trust you and you should be able to trust that he'll have faith in you too.  My ex gf (when we were still dating) went through my deleted e-mails while I was in the bath and I felt absolutely violated so I know how it feels.  I hated it and couldn't believe she would have such little faith in me.  Yes she was a sh#tty girlfriend and yes I was looking for someone better but I wasn't doing anything behind her back.  My ex girlfriend was a long term relationship but eventually it ended and I found someone MUCH better who's also been a very long term relationship and the best girlfriend I've ever had (my current girlfriend treats me so much better than anyone else I've ever dated and it feels so great!).  My ex girlfriend never treated me right and I'm so glad that I eventually found the strength to move on and find someone much better.

I'm not saying that it's impossible to make things work with your husband.  But you shouldn't be clinging onto something that's never going to work for the sake of your son as staying in a dysfunctional relationship will probably do more damage.

[80sFREAK]

He went through my inbox and went through all the things i had said to one of my close personal friends who had started having feelings for me. Everything got taken out of context and now my friend won't even talk to me 

Personally i respect privacy, BUT... Ask yourself, would you be happy, if your husband could have "close personal friend(female friend), who started having feelings..."?

[Drakon]

If I were her and my husband had a close personal female friend who started having feelings for him I'd trust me husband and have faith that he wouldn't lead her on.  I wouldn't go through my husbands e-mails that's basically saying you have zero trust in the person.  If you can't trust someone then you certainly should etiher have a serious talk to the person or move on with your life.  Those are the only two directions I could see this going.

He went through my inbox and went through all the things i had said to one of my close personal friends who had started having feelings for me. Everything got taken out of context and now my friend won't even talk to me  

Personally i respect privacy, BUT... Ask yourself, would you be happy, if your husband could have "close personal friend(female friend), who started having feelings..."?

[Jedi QuestMaster]

My next door cluster mate blows his nose all the time in the shower (we share the same shower). I mean, he's doing it ALL THE TIME while taking a shower.

[fredJ]

Maybe he does other things in there too 

[80sFREAK]

If I were her and my husband had a close personal female friend who started having feelings for him I'd trust me husband and have faith that he wouldn't lead her on.  I wouldn't go through my husbands e-mails that's basically saying you have zero trust in the person.  If you can't trust someone then you certainly should etiher have a serious talk to the person or move on with your life.  Those are the only two directions I could see this going.

He went through my inbox and went through all the things i had said to one of my close personal friends who had started having feelings for me. Everything got taken out of context and now my friend won't even talk to me 

Personally i respect privacy, BUT... Ask yourself, would you be happy, if your husband could have "close personal friend(female friend), who started having feelings..."?

I said nothing about going thru e-mail and other. Lets say, how it could be without internet.
Post Merge: May 10, 2012, 01:03:14 AM

My next door cluster mate blows his nose all the time in the shower (we share the same shower). I mean, he's doing it ALL THE TIME while taking a shower.

LOL it reminds me something... I solved my case in a one shot

[Drakon]

My next door cluster mate blows his nose all the time in the shower (we share the same shower). I mean, he's doing it ALL THE TIME while taking a shower.

Wow...that's...disgusting.  Does he atleast do it onto a cloth?  Like I'll sometimes blow my nose in a bath but always onto a personal towel of mine that I can wash afterwards and fold up so snot doesn't get on anything else.

[Jedi QuestMaster]

Maybe he does other things in there too 

I hope not! I'm the one who scrubs the floor in there & so far I've had  two cases of jock itch (athlete's foot) this school year; something that I've never had my entire life. [/tmi]

[UglyJoe]

Flip-flops, man!  Wear flip-flops in there!

[L___E___T]

My next door cluster mate blows his nose all the time in the shower (we share the same shower). I mean, he's doing it ALL THE TIME while taking a shower.

Are they fake cover noises?  You sure he's just blowing his nose?