What should i do?
It simply came to me last few days, i'm feeling half dead... and i don't know why i'm so unhappy , can't find any reason for that.
Occasionally i think like my life is not worth living and for that emotional condition i feel tired and sad :(
Go and see a doctor, don't ignore it. Could just be a phase but it's depression can be very destructive and understimated, let us know how you get on don't be unhappy in silence...
My friend, I think one of the best things to do is to chat with friends / family / a counselor / whoever makes you feel most comfortable. In my past I had a quite serious bout of depression (it was after coming back from a study abroad trip in Germany), and I just could not adjust back to the boring, mundane life at the small university I attended. Being comprised of mostly poor / middle class country folk from my region, I just felt that I couldn't relate to many of these people. I had few friends, and I really missed the friends I had made while abroad. Eventually because of my best friend attending graduate school at that university, and then the two of us becoming involved with a group of local musicians, I was able to pull myself out of the depression and things got much, much better. I had refused to see a doctor because I didn't want to be put on some "quick fix" medicine like many American doctors will do for those who suffer from depression.
My brother has also faced depression before, and he opted for the medicine route (well he had little choice as he was in his teens when this happened, and my mom and dad chose for him). By now he is not taking medicine for depression, and I think he is over the worst of it, but as normal with humans, he gets smaller bouts from time to time, though nothing serious. At the moment he is doing great, in that regards.
I agree with L___E___T, don't be unhappy in silence. Whether you want to go to the doctor or not I feel is your choice, but if it ever gets to the point where you feel you want to commit suicide, then you definitely need the help of the professionals. If it is more of a "bleh" feeling and you just feel that your life is in a rut, then maybe talking with others can help you to discover the root of your unhappiness, and allow you to overcome it naturally.
Quote from: smeghead on October 26, 2014, 04:55:05 am
What should i do?
It simply came to me last few days, i'm feeling half dead... and i don't know why i'm so unhappy , can't find any reason for that.
Occasionally i think like my life is not worth living and for that emotional condition i feel tired and sad :(
Post Merge: October 26, 2014, 06:08:38 am
Either way, things will get better. Guaranteed.
I think Winter is coming and that is a negative (people tend to get more depressed during Winter due to the shorter days and less sunlight), but after a few months, the sun will be back.
From my own personal experience, when I felt so depressed, the thing that helped the most was throwing myself out there and trying something else. Maybe there is a new hobby you can partake in, or some way to meet some new friends. Or maybe you are more introverted and would prefer to do some new activity like writing or reading.
Lately I have been finding myself to be in a rut, but these days I know that it is being caused because I need change. So I am trying to figure out some way to break out of the current habits, and to add excitement back into my life. Maybe this is what you need too?
I too have experienced depression. It is a terrible condition. It is difficult to see the light at the end of the tunnel. It is there. You just need help getting there. I too recommend seeing a doctor. That is the first step to getting better. Sometimes you don't need medicines just counselling. You have support here if you want to chat by PM.
Definitely talk to someone. I've been through that and I'm finally done with it. Reach out for others because you'll need them to get through this. We are here for you too! :-[
Sometimes I do happen to also go through that crap. Sometimes this bad feeling just happens for no parent reason and goes away on its own...
Thanks everybody... when i come here it's like i'm feeling better :)
Just to say, i visited psychiatrist and we talked about my problem. He suggested that i should come to some kind of meeting where other people with similar problems are gathering,
and after that i will be less depressed. I don't know, maybe i go just to see what's there but it's sounds to me like that is some kind of antidepression club ::)
And i've searched online what is good for curing depression ( dark chocolate, more physical activity, visiting favorite places, praying!), i will definitely try some of those.
I've gotta recommend some physicaL exertion- cycling if you can or just some calisthenics. Blood flowing through the brain will start to change your mind.
I recommend working out a little. Even if you don't feel like leaving the house, play Wii Fit or Wii Sports boxing. 'Runner's High' is a natural way to make yourself feel relaxed, have a sense of accomplishment, and self-worth. Do some yoga to empty to your mind, then some quick strength training to feel your heart pumping, then a little cardio to finish it all. Do this for 20-30mins a day and you will notice yourself feeling more refreshed and awake and happy!
All great advice. Exercise, talk to friends/family who know what you're going through, and try to do things that usually make you smile. If none of that helps, then seeking professional help is always an option. There's no shame in asking for help.
Good luck, mate.
I know it sounds lame, but seriously.... get outside.
Go walk through the woods on a walking path or something..
Human beings are animals and our destructive habits relating to advanced civilization have been happening for a mere fraction of a percent of our time on Earth.. We evolved out doors and with the elements in our faces and against our bodies.
Sometimes just looking into a neighboring lot's wooded yard makes me smile and feel a sort of nostalgia or craving to be in the thick of it.
A good fresh wind can elicit a similar response in me.
I hope you don't take my comment lightly.. Go walking in the woods, friend.
Yes, seriously. Get outside. Release some endorphins. too.
I've been in a rut lately without a job and I've been working out and keeping busy with personal projects (games, chipmusic, finally getting back to my aladdin hack). At the very least I'm in better shape now, even though I'm still in a rut. (http://i498.photobucket.com/albums/rr343/JediQuestMaster/hmph.gif)
Idiots. They are everywhere. :(
I'm feeling pretty shitty and depressed right now. It seems no matter what I say or do, my gf is never happy. She constantly calls me on my parenting and goes directly against it. It's always an argument and I am so tired of it. She is always rolling her eyes at me and making me feel like an asshole or idiot for everything I do. She constantly brings up the fact that I have a drinking problem and it's always an argument if I have been drinking, even if it's only 1 or 2 beers. She has these stupid double standards where something is ok if she's doing it, but all hell breaks loose if I do the same things.
Right about now I could use a few shots of vodka but I don't drink hard alcohol anymore because I am trying to be a better person for her and my kids, but it's like no matter when I change or stop doing, there is just something else I could change or stop doing. I am so stressed out because all I want is to be happy and I can't.
I am just at a loss here. I am ready to just walk but I don't want my kids to think I abandoned them and I wouldn't put it passed my gf to pollute their minds with that garbage bullshit.
I just want to get fucked up right now. I have 12 years of drug abuse under my belt and I have basically done it all less heroin and crack. Ive been mostly clean for a while now but I feel like going for another run. Are there any recovering addicts of anything here that can give me a bit of support here? I'm ready to give up.
Fuck my life.
Sorry for my depressing rant. I have no one to talk to about this really and I consider a bunch of you guys my friends. I just need to hear some opinions and get some support. I can't continue to live like this. It's not healthy for me or anyone for that matter to feel this way.
Sometimes I have this problem with my girlfriend, well in regards to double standards and things like that, and I know how much that sucks, and also have been through some periods of being unable to make her happy, no matter what. At the end of one of those periods, I got a kitty, and he has been bringing our relationship closer together...she is able to see that despite my faults (I guess it would be drinking, spending too much on games, whatever) that I always put the kitten first, and as a result, some of her anxieties seem to have gone away.
Have you ever tried to go to AA or something like that? I guess why I am asking is because maybe if you take a step like that, it will show your gf how hard you are trying to be a better person, even the times when there are setbacks and so forth. To me, it would be mostly symbolic, but it might help things.
Girls hate when you say / claim one thing, and they see another thing seems to be happening. But if they see that you are trying to do what you said you would do, it can go a long way.
Quote from: MaxXimus on November 22, 2014, 08:10:00 pm
I'm feeling pretty shitty and depressed right now. It seems no matter what I say or do, my gf is never happy. She constantly calls me on my parenting and goes directly against it. It's always an argument and I am so tired of it. She is always rolling her eyes at me and making me feel like an asshole or idiot for everything I do. She constantly brings up the fact that I have a drinking problem and it's always an argument if I have been drinking, even if it's only 1 or 2 beers. She has these stupid double standards where something is ok if she's doing it, but all hell breaks loose if I do the same things.
Right about now I could use a few shots of vodka but I don't drink hard alcohol anymore because I am trying to be a better person for her and my kids, but it's like no matter when I change or stop doing, there is just something else I could change or stop doing. I am so stressed out because all I want is to be happy and I can't.
I am just at a loss here. I am ready to just walk but I don't want my kids to think I abandoned them and I wouldn't put it passed my gf to pollute their minds with that garbage bullshit.
I just want to get fucked up right now. I have 12 years of drug abuse under my belt and I have basically done it all less heroin and crack. Ive been mostly clean for a while now but I feel like going for another run. Are there any recovering addicts of anything here that can give me a bit of support here? I'm ready to give up.
Fuck my life.
Sorry for my depressing rant. I have no one to talk to about this really and I consider a bunch of you guys my friends. I just need to hear some opinions and get some support. I can't continue to live like this. It's not healthy for me or anyone for that matter to feel this way.
You gotta tone down the drugs if you're around the kids, especially if you want them to not be influenced by your example. There's nothing wrong with unwinding with whatever substance you choose, as long as your other aspects of life are balanced. Although, if I were you I would stick to just one. You should quit boozing altogether, and just stick with the cannabis because it's easier on your system, as well as health benefits. I used to consider myself an addict a few years back when I had serious depression, but now I use it with a pretty good balance. Never let it get in the way of responsibilities my friend 8)
Thanks for the replies guys
Fcgamer. I actually used to attend NA meetings for a bit right after quitting all the hard stuff I did and right before quitting hard alcohol. She seemed proud of me at that point, but she seems to have forgotten how far I have come.
Zmaster18. Except for the pot I am not using anything and have been trying to cut back on the drinking as much as possible. I am a daily drinker and like to have at least a couple beers a day and in the last 7 days I have had 6 beers (I went out and bought myself 2 yesterday because I couldn't handle the stress I was being put through. )
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Things have toned down again so let's hope that was a low and things are going to chip up a bit. If not, maybe it's time to start pitching for the other team, haha ;p
I drink a lot too, I feel - not daily, but several times a week. Sometimes I think it is stress related, but other times it is simply wanting to complement my spicy noodles or fried rice with a cold one. Beer will make you fat, and alcohol itself can cause health issues; however, I also always remember that it is partially a cultural feeling, Italians drinking a daily glass or two of wine, Germans and their daily beer, etc. So while I don't think a daily usage is necessary as bad as what our cultures make it out to be, I also feel that the key here is moderation. If you want / need to drink every day, maybe switch to something a bit more healthy like wine, and stop it after a glass or two. This is coming from the views of a homebrewer though, so maybe my views are a bit biased and skewed.
I also stopped drinking hard alcohol awhile back. It always seemed to lead me down a bad path, and I just was tired of it.
As for your girlfriend forgetting the progress you made, it very well could be that she just doesn't want it to stagnate. I get this a lot with my gf and my Chinese ability. When I first came to Taiwan, I took a lot of effort to learn Chinese, and I quickly picked up a toolbox of survival Chinese, that would impress any Taiwanese. But after three years of living here and my language ability having improved very little, my girlfriend is quite tired of playing translator for me. Stagnating is not good, I think, women hate that.
I also drink beer around twice a week but only with friends (I hate drinking alone) and I'm trying to be careful since I have alcoholics in the family. My oldest karate instructor always says that a beer after training is good for the balance and that those people always training super hard and never drink alcohol are not healthy. He's been smoking and drinking all his life and still has very good values despite his age, so I also believe alcohol is good for you in moderate amounts. But drinking to ease pain is more bad than good.
I don't think she has forgotten that you have tried hard but that's no reason to stop improving as Fcgamer says. You have your favourite Famicom forum as your support too. :)
After not drinking any beer for a week I drink 5 beers and we are back to he same....... Sigh.
You should still think of that break as an accomplishment. You have to do small steps at a time to break a habit. Keep it up, and you will gradually get there.
I think the best thing right now would to just have a few sober days again.
Guess I am not the only one with alcohol concerns/problems it would seem.
If you absolutely need that escape from reality, just play a game. I know, you may not be in the mood to just pick up the controller but just do it. You will get immersed in the game and only focus on the game. You will forget about your craving temporarily. It amazes me how a game will take my mind off stress and also my temptation for cannabis. It's a good, stress-relieving distraction. I recommend wii sports boxing or punch out wii when pissed off.
Going for a run is a healthy alternative. It will make you feel good.
For me, drinking is usually associated with certain activities I do. For example, if I decide to play guitar some evening, I will be more likely to drink beer than if I decide to watch a movie.