i have a problem

[linkzpikachu]

so my neighbor gave my phone number to a girl who rides his bus a while back, we have been texting since and i found out she is coming to my school next year. however today she left me a viocemail saying "dont text me or call me my cousin died today" it was the first time i have heard her vioce, then she posted something kinda depressing on facebook and i fear for her. i have no idea what to make of it

[ericj]

That's weird, but kids are weird. I dunno. Seems strange she'd tell you that.

[JC]

Weird, yes. When I was a freshman in high school, I called this girl. She answered, chatted with me for about 30 seconds and then said she had to go because her phone was broken. She just didn't want to talk to me.

[famiac]

haha, sorry JC 

[linkzpikachu]

no im going to be a sophomore and shes gonna be a freshman the thing is i fear that she is going to do something to herself because she keeps posting drepressing things on facebook

[UglyJoe]

It's normal to be depressed when a family member dies.  Give her a few days to grieve and then text her again and ask her how she's doing.

[Rob64]

... I'm with ericj, kids are weird. I'm also with UglyJoe, she's going through a grieving period. I'm wondering if the depressing stuff on facebook would also indicate a personality change where she is becoming an emo.... taht's just speculation on my part but have seen it happen.

[linkzpikachu]

ill just stick with uglyjoe let her work through it and the ask how she doing if she is emo....o well

[L___E___T]

To me, her asking you not to talk to her is a way of saying "help me feel better if you care enough" but I get these things wrong enough and who knows, the whole thing seems a little weird to me anyway to be honest.

[linkzpikachu]

i was talking to my friend (who is a girl) over FB chat saying "im outside your door and window" and now her boyfriend wants to fight me, i know i should avoid it but he said he was gonna get himself supended the first day of school by fighting me, right now im just think of letting have at me so he will get suspended and be happy and i will be the one still at school and look like the smart one, what do you think?

[cubelmariomadness]

When he starts to fight, start making a racket, and he'll get suspended probably.

[linkzpikachu]

When he starts to fight, start making a racket, and he'll get suspended probably.

im thinking of being a total jackass and being like "here hit me on my goodside" so he does hit me and just lay there

[Epic_Lotus]

This might sound crazy to you, but this is why most male/female friendships fade in the years after school.  It's just too easy for jealousy to develop between a couple that can't be easily repaired.  A lot of people I've said this to often retort with "Well, they should learn to trust their partner", but that's not actually the right question that needs to be asked.  The real question is, "What is it that I need from this other person that my partner isn't providing?"  When they figure that out, it's time to grab their partner and... discuss!

As for the whole fight thing - not worth it.  Swolen face, concussion, looking awful for your first couple weeks at school.  It's not worth the other guy's suspension.  It'll feel good the first day, but the soreness from getting clobbered that'll last for a week or more isn't.  That, and your friend may get really pissed at you if her boyfriend gets suspended, even though he's the one that hit you.

[linkzpikachu]

1.hes a bad boy she wont get pissed at me 2.i know the wounds arent worth it, what im saying is that i will refuse to fight to make him look worse 3.the guy needs to learn how to take a joke, i know he offended by it but he just doesnt know my humor so i think thats why

[Peps1ru1es92]

In my mind, these type of questions have no place on FW. Regardless, my "two cents" are as follows

*Most* Middle and High School relationships end just as quickly as they start, so if you're lucky, by September, it'll be over and he won't care anymore. That being said, is he much bigger than you? If you were really determined, you could get a gym membership and train from now until then, and proceed to kick his ass.

The bad part of this whole thing is just how easily it could have been avoided. No offense, but to me, you seem slightly socially awkward (I am too, to a point, thing is I'm smart, so fuck off, society ) anyone with a bf/gf is no-no territory when it comes to any kind of joke like that. You were obviously joking, but guys, especially, like to blow things out of proportion, so they make "Betsy" feel special and like he's going out of his way to "protect" her.

My point is, it very well could be over by then, but if you do have to fight, unless he's huge, don't just be a pussy (am I allowed to say "pussy" on FW?) and take it. Fight back, stand up for yourself! You won't find many girls in high school who'll date a nerd-pussy, at least you won't at MY high school. 

Don't lose sleep over it, man.